It's funny how grief goes. Most times, I'm ok...there might be a thought in the back of my brain, but it's just a thought. Sometimes though, that thought starts high kicking it's way through my brain and becomes overwhelming. At the strangest times. In the shower, driving down the road, at work... When that hurt just bubbles up in your throat and you weep.
One bit that has helped me is on 88.1 smile.fm, they have Up Words with Max Lucado. One that has really helped me with my anger has been this:
"Gandhi was right, if we all lived by 'an eye for an eye' philosophy, the whole world would soon be blind. Do yourself a favor, entrust your enemies to God. Remember, He always judges justly. Scripture helpfully explains 'wise men turn away from anger'. When you forgive someone you're not endorsing their behavior, nor their misbehavior. You can hate someones action without letting the hatred consume or define you. Forgiveness isn't excusing nor is it pretending. You can forgive the abusive husband, but still be smart and not go to bed with him. Be quick to give mercy to the immoral pastor, but be slow to give him another pulpit. Give the child molester another chance, but lets be smart enough to keep him out of our playgrounds.
Forgiveness isn't foolishness nor is it naivety, and nor is it 'An eye for an eye' retribution."