I recently read in a friend's blog about his little tobacco nazi. you can read that post here.
As many of you know, I have my own tobacco nazi as the Chins know full well.
I've let Alexis know she can go to another room or politely ask people not to smoke around her but she cannot harass them haha
It's been two months and I still can't post my Karen blog. It still feels too private, isn't that strange? We all went through it, it's not like I'm writing new information. How do you stop grieving long enough to start healing?
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Ok, my comments on this one could turn into my own blog! I agree with the article you quoted here. We all know that smoking is not good for us. Although neither is drinking alcohol, overeating or eating the wrong foods, drinking too much caffiene, eating junkfood, not getting enough sleep, not excercising enough, gambling, wearing inappropriate clothing, being lazy, using improper grammar or expletives and the list goes on and on....
However, the ONE thing we do not want to teach our children is to go about the world telling people how to live, criticizing or being impolite. I find it the single most impolite thing I have ever experienced to have a child come up to an adult and tell them which particular habit they have decided they have the right to correct. If they do not choose to be around the habit, they may excuse themselves quietly.
No doubt my opinion is strong, but I did teach my children that they have no right to be rude to others, most especially telling adults how to live.
When it comes to Karen, I can understand why it is so difficult for you to write your feelings. No one could ever know the amount of love and devotion you showed to your sisterinlaw during her last days. That pain was kept silent and must be huge. Maybe writing about your love might help, because that is what you showed.
She DOES have a right and a need to be able to. She has asthma. She can choose to leave the room or if that isn't possible, she can politly ask them to wait. She's not telling them they shouldn't ever smoke or that they don't have the right to smoke. She's asking them to have consideration for HER. Our job as adults is to protect the children. If, for whatever reason, I'm not around at that moment to protect her, I want her to have the tools and the manners to know how to address the situation so she's NOT going "EWWWWW don't smoke around ME it will KILL YOU" It's a process and it takes time. She's only 5, she'll get there.
I agree, Laura, that a child can choose to excuse themselves, quietly if they do not choose to be around smoke. However, that was not what the article you were quoting was about. It was about children who choose to openly express their opinions about other's behaviors.
Unfortunately, many adults have taught children that is admirable to make those rude comments and I do think that is wrong.
I also agree with you, that it is certainly another story if a child is TRAPPED in a situation and they TRULY have an asthma situation. Then it would be certainly be appropriate for that child to state that they have a problem.
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